This week I want to focus on a post I stumbled across on Facebook which took me a step back and got me thinking seriously about how we bring up our children and expect miracles in some cases. It is titled: Wake up parents.
Years ago, poor illiterate parents produced doctors, engineers, scientists, accountants, lawyers, architects, professors… whom I will refer to as group A.
These group-A children struggled on their own after primary school or grade 12 to become notable personalities. Most of them trekked to school barefoot, went to farms, fetched water and firewood, cared for animals and did some work including trading after school to survive.
Now group A, who have now become parents themselves are producing group-B children. These children are pampered, helped in their homework or home assignments from nursery school through secondary school to higher institutions, chauffeur-driven to very expensive schools or are sent abroad to study. They can watch movies till dawn after school, are treated like little kings and queens, and do not do any household chores.
Food is put on the table for them. Their plates are removed and washed by parents or house maids. They are given expensive cars and clothes, not forgetting big amounts of pocket money to be wasted.
Their parents help them in doing their assignments. In spite of all these, only a few can speak or write correctly.
Group-A parents cared for their own parents and children, but the children of group-B parents are still struggling to find their feet at age 30 plus!
They find it difficult to do things on their own because they are used to being helped to think and do things by group A. So they can’t help themselves, their parents or the society. They abandon their parents in their bid to conquer the word.
Where do you belong?
Reduce the pampering and the unnecessary help you offer your children. Let your children grow in wisdom, intelligence and strength. Let them face the truth and the realities of life. Teach them to grow to become independent adults. Teach them to fear God; to respect others and to develop confidence in themselves. Parents, discipline your children to become disciplined adults, useful and not useless.
Be honest enough to evaluate yourselves correctly in the manner you’re treating your children. I’m guilty of the above, what about you?